Before I start writing anything to in this thread, I wish to clearly say that the views expressed are solely mine and not intended to hurt anybody!!
I recently received a fwd frm my sister in law. It was abt someone opposing one specific argument in the 'Neeya Naana' show in Vijay TV. The argument was - Thaali Thevaiya. A guy who was totally against this idea had written a (very) long article. The following is the link to what was printed in some local magazine.
The person who had originally written (the attachment about culture and other similar stuff), has clearly written out of his sentimental heart rather than his brain. And avarukku vaela vettiyae kidayatha?? Or is he similar to someone in Maharashtra in the making. He's written (goddamn) 29 pages!! I read about 10 pages of the attachment and I didn't bother to continue as I felt it was a waste of time. I had already spent quite some time on hunting the "Thali Thevaiya" episode on the internet!
I saw the episode and I agree that both sides had a few rude and illogical people. But that does not mean the idea behind the argument was wrong. A person wearing or not wearing a thali has to be her own choice and I firmly believe that any married women who does not wear a thali is not in any way insulting our culture. What is culture anyway?? A couple of centuries back widows had to be burnt alive with the husband's body. What was culture centuries back is totally stupid to us now. Our great grand parents got married when they were 10 and 8 yrs old. What was culture then is now illegal. Few decades back, widows were forced in to wearing white sari and tonsuring their head, do we follow that now?? Aren't we educated?? Don't we know what is right and wrong?? Even now 'Jallikattu' is so common in our villages. We also know people die in this sport and yet we continue to torment a anjarivu mirugam in the name of culture.
One girl argued that when she was still a bachelorette, men at her work place used to flirt with her. Now after marriage it seems, everyone shows more respect. All because of a single thali!! She feels secure after wearing a thali!! It is very true. But what the naduvar - Mrs.Nambi Aarura asked a question made me think a lot!! Lets say a lady gets married at 28, from about 16yrs to 28yrs she does not have any security, but only when she wears a thali she gets that security. Weather married or not shouldn't women get the same respect?? Don't you think we need to change attitude of the society??
Anyway, in the show, whatever is telecast is personal opinion of the participants. If a person does not want to wear a thali and she wishes to let people know that she does not like to wear one, its her right of speech. At the same time no one can force another person to wear/remove a thali, especially in the name of culture. Even though I was born and brought up in a Tamil culture, I do not like to wear a veshti, does that make me guilty of hurting Tamil sentiments. Even though I am a Hindu, I go to Church for Christmas, so am I against Hindu culture. This is stupidity to say people do not respect culture jus because they do not wear a thali.
I don't know what enmity the writer has got against Vijay TV and the sponsors. Though he's not said much about one of the naduvar Nirmala Periyasami, he did add sarcasm to whatever he wrote about her. I wonder who gave the rights to him to write about her. A few weeks back I saw an episode abt inter-caste marriage. The show definitely did not show as what the (inter-caste married) people did was right, even though the only mistake they did was to fall in love. I saw the same show for Bankers. A lot was said against the bankers and also in support of the bankers. I got to know a
lot of info I didn't know. It could really help a lot of financially struggling students. The show is actually very good. In the same "Thali Thevaiya" show, before every commercial break, they showed different types of thali in Hindu culture. It was clearly show casing the vastness of our culture. I think the writer jus want to publicize himself. That's why he's gone to this level.
My point is simple!!
You want to follow culture or not depends on each person (avaravarudaya thani patta karuthu).
Jus because a person does not follow culture does not mean he insults the culture.
And regarding the boycotting of the sponsors!! I felt it was funny!!!
Assume a cricket match scenario... Lets say its the Pepsi cup final. India and Pakistan are playing. India loses to Pak in the worst way possible, added to the fact that Paki players sledge indian players a lot!! Now will you stop drinking Pepsi becoz it sponsored the match in which India was humiliated!! 'Boycotting the sponsors' logic apdi dhaan irukku. The sponsors are jus doing it bcoz the show had good TRP rating. They have no idea what arguements are taking place.... Anyone with basic common sense should buy a product because of its quality and not because of its cover and definitely not because of what programmes its sponsoring!!!
And lemme say again, the views expressed are solely mine and not intended to hurt anybody!!
